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Steve Inzero: Love Without Reservation

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Welcome to Portraits of Fatherhood: We’re telling the story of today’s dads.

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Portraits of FatherhoodThere is no better place to witness the changing roles of men and women in the larger culture than through the lens of parenthood. But rather than speculate on what and how contemporary fathers do what they do, we’d like to bring you portraits of the dads themselves. In their own words. Would you like to be interviewed for this feature? See the end of the post for details.

 

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NAME  Steve Inzero

AGE 44

HOMETOWN / WHERE DO YOU LIVE NOW?  North Haven, Ct/ currently residing in Branford, Ct

NUMBER OF CHILDREN   One

WORK   I am a Full Time Business Analyst for a Medical Software Vendor, Part-time Tow Truck Operator and Full-time dad

RELATIONSHIP STATUS   Involved

HOW DO YOU COMBINE WORK AND FAMILY?  How have you, or you and your partner (if you’re partnered), arranged your life/schedule to provide the daily care for your kid(s)?

My current job, I’ve been at for four years. Because I am a single parent I had to be very picky on jobs, because my schedule had to coordinate with my daughter’s schooling in addition to being available for any of my daughter’s afters-chool activities. I am very fortunate that my current employer understands the wants and needs of a single parent and for the liberties they have given me to be an involved and active parent. It’s such a hard time being a single parent trying to fit in working, playing, paying all the bills and having somewhat a normal ADULT life!! But I wouldn’t change a thing!

HOW HAS PARENTING CHANGED YOU AS AN INDIVIDUAL?

A close friend told me about unconditional love. As soon as my daughter was born, I finally understood what that means, to love without any reservations, NO MATTER WHAT!! It has made me a better man and a better person. She is my inspiration and is the funniest person I know.

IF PARTNERED, HOW HAS PARENTING AFFECTED YOUR RELATIONSHIP? How often do you have sex? Is it enough? How do you communicate differently (if at all)?

Without getting into specifics, you make the time to be together, no matter how much time it may be, that’ s the most important thing you can do to succeed in any relationship. My relationship is quite new, but we’ve known each other for over a year and we constantly communicate on many levels.

WHAT ARE YOUR STRENGTHS AS A PARENT AND WHAT ARE YOUR WEAKNESSES?

My biggest strength is my patience with my daughter. They can change from one moment to another, it’s quite challenging and patience is totally required. My biggest weakness is being over protective. Because I have a daughter, I am like a hawk, and at times I need to remember that she needs to be able to fly on her own and fall on her own, but to be there when it happens.

IF PARTNERED, WHAT ARE YOUR PARTNER’S STRENGTHS AND WEAKNESSES?  

I have to say, we complement each other, where I might be strong, I can assist, and vice versa. At this point the children are not totally integrated into our relationship.

WHO ELSE PROVIDES CHILDCARE FOR YOUR CHILDREN? Do you have unpaid family or friends providing help or do you have paid nannies/babysitters/au pairs?

My mother plays the biggest role in my daughter’s life. She is responsible for getting my daughter off the bus. She helps her do her homework (but swears at me because it’s hard for her with this new math!), she will even give her a shower on the nights I work my second job. My father does the night watch with my daughter on those nights I work, and he will normally take her out for dinner on Friday nights! I am very lucky to have both of them helping me.

WHAT IS YOUR WORST PARENTING MOMENT?

LOL..it’s terrible to laugh..but the only thing that comes to mind is me accidentally rolling up the car window and her hand got caught in it. She was only two at the time. I felt awful!!

WHAT IS YOUR BEST PARENTING MOMENT?

The best moment is when her pediatrician (who was retiring at her last visit) commended me on the outstanding job that I was doing raising my daughter. He was so skeptical in the beginning (my daughter has lived with me full time most of her life) that I wasn’t going to be able to do it. It literally brought tears to my eyes that I begged him NOT to retire!!

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We’re looking for a few good dads.

IF you’d like to be interviewed for this feature, please write to Lisa Duggan at: themodvillage@gmail.com
Please write “Portraits of Fatherhood” in the subject line.

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